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I'm sorry if you inferenced that I was blaming men alone for the perpetuation of gender based stereotypes. I thought it was clear in my argument about the biases that begin in child rearing that women were equally responsible. In no way did I feel fathers were the sole motivators behind the act of relegating identity to a child's sex. Yes, you are right, women work hard, in variety of professions, to keep identity categorically boxed. I still think the big figures behind that push are men, and that women, taught to use their feminine wiles and manipulative qualities would have much higher self-esteems if they were able to invest in more fulfilling, honest ventures. i am not talking a Eutopian society (or societies that outrightly oppress females), nor do I thinkall that falls short in this life is a result of men. Its an absurd expectation to think that women will have the same physical capacities as males. I do not expect men to give birth when they are incapable and I'm not looking for protoypes of what men and women should look and be like based on their obvious differences; in fact I am asking for the encouragement of a little more individuality, and I deeply believe that it begins with men in positions of authority (as though that weren't self-explanatory) using media and advertisement to inculcate the same damaging ideas about what the idyllic homelife, relationship, and friend base is comprised of...and I do know that in many ways, not natural or fundamental, but synthetic and artificially constructed, the moguls make money off the mental conditioning that takes place (generationally speaking for both men and women) through overexposure to traditional, incumberent  values. As a side note, you are right on the aspect of superiority taking place in both genders. I am making this a war one against the other but sometimes it comes down to being a war against oneself. I 'preach' getting informed, knowing the facts, being equipped to read through the fine print, to understand how we self-subjugate, how we impose our own limitations, not knowing what great abilities lie within because we are conditioned to fulfill certain roles...and how we allow others the right to control and influence our decision making. With the advantages that I see men are able to capitolize on (real advatanges, rewarding advantages, longterm advantages, not getting a free meal or drinks at the bar because society still honors women who don't pay for their meal, pull out their own chair, open their own doors, ect), I stress here that I want women to understand that decisions they make, opinions they possess, beliefs which govern their very being must be challenged and assessed, in order to understand the origin and initiate change.